Message to your spouse/partner: a template, prompts, and an example

Before you write

• Keep it human and specific — one page is enough.
• Avoid legal instructions and passwords inside the message.
• Use a separate digital-legacy checklist for practical info

Template (short version)

Use this when you want something simple and warm.

1. Reassure them: you want them to be okay.
2. Say thank you for something specific.
3. Share one memory and what it meant.
4. End with permission to keep living fully.

Template (long version)

If you want more depth, add these sections:

• The story of “us”: a few sentences about what you loved.
• What I hope you remember: values, lessons, or promises.
• Practical note (optional): where to find important info.
• Closing: love, forgiveness, and permission.

Prompts that don’t feel generic

• A moment with you I will never forget is…
• You made me feel safe when…
• I’m proud of you for…
• I hope you keep doing…
• If you ever doubt yourself, remember…

A short example (adapt it)

Make it sound like you. Short beats perfect.

“If you’re reading this, I’m not here anymore — but I’m with you in everything we built. Thank you for the ordinary days and the hard ones. Please don’t carry guilt. Take your time, lean on people who love you, and keep choosing a life that feels true. I love you.”

How to use this in LaterWill

Start with a draft and update it whenever life changes.

• Create one message and choose your partner as the recipient.
• Keep it as a draft until you’re ready.
• Explore the farewell-letters use case